![Seek permission:
When it comes to physical touch, both men and women struggle at times in marriage with being comfortable for a variety of reasons.
A husband will ask "how can I get my wife to open up, she pulls away when I touch her," and a wife will ask "how come my husband doesn't like to hold my hand even in the house?"
In such cases, try asking permission to do something first, and see how warm they are to the idea.
If they seem welcoming, go ahead. If they shrug, seem uncomfortable, or not ready - respect that.
Just keep the thought out there saying "No problem, I would really like to (________) though, but not unless you are comfortable." and fill in the blank.
Happily leave it alone, respecting their emotional boundaries and wait.
The idea itself will stay in their minds, and because you didn't pressure, are content, and still respectful, you are likely to develop a positive feedback cycle.
**Note** This won't work if you are using it as manipulation to "get something." It works when you genuinely want to GIVE something, and care that they experience equal happiness by what you want to give. Leave out mind games from your marriage, otherwise, true intimacy, let alone just touch, can't thrive.(Wives of Jannah)
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Seek permission:
When it comes to physical touch, both men and women struggle at times in marriage with being comfortable for a variety of reasons.
A husband will ask "how can I get my wife to open up, she pulls away when I touch her," and a wife will ask "how come my husband doesn't like to hold my hand even in the house?"
...
In such cases, try asking permission to do something first, and see how warm they are to the idea.
If they seem welcoming, go ahead. If they shrug, seem uncomfortable, or not ready - respect that.
Just keep the thought out there saying "No problem, I would really like to (________) though, but not unless you are comfortable." and fill in the blank.
Happily leave it alone, respecting their emotional boundaries and wait.
The idea itself will stay in their minds, and because you didn't pressure, are content, and still respectful, you are likely to develop a positive feedback cycle.
**Note** This won't work if you are using it as manipulation to "get something." It works when you genuinely want to GIVE something, and care that they experience equal happiness by what you want to give. Leave out mind games from your marriage, otherwise, true intimacy, let alone just touch, can't thrive.(Wives of Jannah)
[http://www.PureMatrimony.com/]
Seek permission:
When it comes to physical touch, both men and women struggle at times in marriage with being comfortable for a variety of reasons.
A husband will ask "how can I get my wife to open up, she pulls away when I touch her," and a wife will ask "how come my husband doesn't like to hold my hand even in the house?"
...
In such cases, try asking permission to do something first, and see how warm they are to the idea.
If they seem welcoming, go ahead. If they shrug, seem uncomfortable, or not ready - respect that.
Just keep the thought out there saying "No problem, I would really like to (________) though, but not unless you are comfortable." and fill in the blank.
Happily leave it alone, respecting their emotional boundaries and wait.
The idea itself will stay in their minds, and because you didn't pressure, are content, and still respectful, you are likely to develop a positive feedback cycle.
**Note** This won't work if you are using it as manipulation to "get something." It works when you genuinely want to GIVE something, and care that they experience equal happiness by what you want to give. Leave out mind games from your marriage, otherwise, true intimacy, let alone just touch, can't thrive.(Wives of Jannah)
[http://www.PureMatrimony.com/]
When it comes to physical touch, both men and women struggle at times in marriage with being comfortable for a variety of reasons.
A husband will ask "how can I get my wife to open up, she pulls away when I touch her," and a wife will ask "how come my husband doesn't like to hold my hand even in the house?"
...
In such cases, try asking permission to do something first, and see how warm they are to the idea.
If they seem welcoming, go ahead. If they shrug, seem uncomfortable, or not ready - respect that.
Just keep the thought out there saying "No problem, I would really like to (________) though, but not unless you are comfortable." and fill in the blank.
Happily leave it alone, respecting their emotional boundaries and wait.
The idea itself will stay in their minds, and because you didn't pressure, are content, and still respectful, you are likely to develop a positive feedback cycle.
**Note** This won't work if you are using it as manipulation to "get something." It works when you genuinely want to GIVE something, and care that they experience equal happiness by what you want to give. Leave out mind games from your marriage, otherwise, true intimacy, let alone just touch, can't thrive.(Wives of Jannah)
[http://www.PureMatrimony.com/]
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