Because Your Wife DOES NOT WORK

Because Your Wife DOES NOT WORK....???"

A husband complains for feeling tired... tired and tired.... and wants his wife help him on earning money by also working, because so far he thinks that his wife is 'not working'.

Following are Question and Answer between The Husband (H) and The Psychologist (P):

P : What do you for a living Mr. Khan?
H : I work as an Accountant.

P : Your Wife ?
H : She doesn't work. She's a Housewife only.

P : Who make breakfast for your family in the morning?
H : My Wife, because she doesn't work.

P : At what time your wife wake up for making breakfast?
H : She wakes up at around 5am because she cleans the house first before making breakfast.

P : How do your kids go to school?
H : My wife take them to school, because she doesn't work.

P : After taking kids to school, what does she do?
H : She goes to the market, then go back home for cooking and laundrying clothes. You know, she doesn't work.

P : In the evening, after you go back home from office, what do you do?
H : Take rest, because i'm tired due to all day works.

P : What does your wife do then?
H : She prepares meals, serving our kids, preparing meals for me and cleaning the dishes, cleaning the house then taking kids to bed.

From the story above, who do you think works more???

The daily routines of your wives commence from early morning to late at night. That is called 'DOESN'T WORK'??!!

Yes, Being Housewives do not need Certificate of Study, even High Position, but their ROLE/PART is very important!

When you marry a man,

 

When you marry a man, love him. After you marry him, study him.

If he is honest, humour him.

If he is generous, appreciate him.

When he is sad, cheer him.

When he is quarrelsome, ignore him.

... If he is slothful, spurn him.
If he is noble, praise him.
If he is confidential, encourage him.
If he is secretive, trust him.
If he is jealous, cure him.
If he favours society, accompany him.
When he deserves it, kiss him
Let him think how well you understand him.
But never let him know that you manage him.

A pious woman is a TREASURE

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If I teach a child to read at school, I'm called a Teacher.
If I teach my child to read Qur'aan and his sunnah Du'aaz at home, then I'm just a mother.

If I plan lessons for a class, I'm called a Curriculum Coordinator.
If educate my child home, then I'm just a mother.
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If I sit and talk to children an hour each, a week, addressing their needs, I'm a Speech Therapist.
If I engage and help my child with sabr every minute of every day, instill proper aadaab n akhlaaq, then I'm just a mother.

If I look after a patient in the hospital, I'm called a Nurse.
If I nurse my child when they're ill, awake all night: none able to replace my reassuring presence, then I'm just a mother.

If I manage my boss's office, I'm called a Secretary
If I organise my children's lives and my home, a place for everything and everything in its place, then I'm just a mother.

If I prepare a meal in a restaurant, I'm called a Chef.
If I cook nutritious meals daily, made with love, remembered forever, then I'm just a mother.

If I work late worrying about a deal for clients, how to make them as much money as I can, I'm a Career Woman.
If I stay up worrying and planning my children's deeni future, the deeni future of our world, then I'm just a mother.

If I went out with colleagues and peers for dinner, comparing notes on the industry, I'd be Networking.
If I went out picnicking with a local mother & her toddlers, comparing notes on parenting, I'd just be a mother.

If I sing on a stage, I'm an Artist.If I sing a nazm or azkaar every night, the only voice that they want, the only voice that will do, then I'm just a mother.

But we often tend to forget and reliase that being a mother and bringing up our children with the correct tarbiyat is the hardest profession of all.

May Allah make it easy for all the mumz-to-be n all those who are already mummyz, and grant/make our children Da'ees/Duaat. Aameen

“If a beautiful woman is a jewel...a pious woman is a TREASURE.”

rules of happiness

Six rules of happiness:
1. Don't hate others simply because they have wronged you.
2. Combat worry by having hope in the Almighty and praying excessively.
3. Live simply no matter how high your status may rise.
4. Expect goodness no matter how many tests you may face.
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5. Be generous even if you feel a slight loss.
6. Smile, even if your heart may be sad.

who the husband is and who is the wife

Don't let anyone tell you otherwise, it's still important in a marriage to know who the husband is and who is the wife. Share your joys but know your responsibilities. Help each other but forgive shortcomings. Advise often and criticize less. {Sheikh AbdulBary Yahya}

purposes and benefits of marriage

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Al-Hamdulilla some of the purposes and benefits of marriage we find are:

✦ To restrain sexual passion.

✦ The ordering of domestic life.
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✦ The care and responsibility towards children.

✦ The expansion of the family.

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Your relationship with your life partner should be of great friendship, great trust, and exceptional care. There should be no embarrassment in showing the deepest levels of compassion for each other. We shouldn't feel embarrassed in being serviceable to each other. There should be no shame in cooking, cleaning, doing your partner's laundry, opening the door, taking off shoes, massaging and doing all sorts of kind acts. We shouldn't have to worry about our egos. We should make each other comfortable to the level where there is no hesitation to express our deepest forms of love. To the level that the husband is respected as a King for his service towards his wife, and the wife is treated like a Queen for her service to her husband. And there is an atmosphere of giving instead of expecting. No one person should take the other's humility as their weakness or abuse them for it. It takes two to preserve the peace and tranquillity in a marriage. And all the above requires love and mercy!

Because Your Wife DOES NOT WORK

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‎"Because Your Wife DOES NOT WORK....???"

A husband complains for feeling tired... tired and tired.... and wants his wife help him on earning money by also working, because so far he thinks that his wife is 'not working'.

Following are Question and Answer between The Husband (H) and The Psychologist (P):
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P : What do you for a living Mr. Bandy?
H : I work as an Accountant in a Bank.

P : Your Wife ?
H : She doesn't work. She's a Housewife only.

P : Who make breakfast for your family in the morning?
H : My Wife, because she doesn't work.

P : At what time your wife wake up for making breakfast?
H : She wakes up at around 5am because she cleans the house first before making breakfast.

P : How do your kids go to school?
H : My wife take them to school, because she doesn't work.

P : After taking kids to school, what does she do?
H : She goes to the market, then go back home for cooking and laundrying clothes. You know, she doesn't work.

P : In the evening, after you go back home from office, what do you do?
H : Take rest, because i'm tired due to all day works.

P : What does your wife do then?
H : She prepares meals, serving our kids, preparing meals for me and cleaning the dishes, cleaning the house then taking kids to bed.

From the story above, who do you think work more???

The daily rounities of your wives commence from early morning to late at night. That is called 'DOESN'T WORK'??!!

Yes, Being Housewives do not need Certificate of Study, even High Position, but their ROLE/PART is very important!

Appreciate your wives. Because their sacrifices are uncountable. This should be a reminder and reflection for all us to understand and appreciate each others roles. Understanding and Appreciating each other will make each person feel Happy.

Remember also that our Prophet (SallAllaahu 'Alayhi Wa Sallam) used to help his wives on house working:

It is narrated on the authority of Abu Hurayrah (radiyAllaahu 'anhu) that he said: I asked 'Aa`ishah (radiyAllaahu 'anha) what the Messenger of Allah (SallAllaahu 'Alayhi Wa Sallam) used to do in the house. She said: ► "He used to help with the housework and when it was time to pray he would leave for the prayer " [Al-Bukhari: 676]

You can marry a woman for

You can marry a woman for her wealth but money will perish.

You can marry a woman for her beauty but beauty will fade away.

You can marry a woman for her power but power will be gone.
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If you marry a pious and righteous woman who fears Allah,
- she will honour you,
- she will be affectionate with you,
- she will help you to get closer to Allah.

Your love story will last forever. It will begin in this life and Insha'Allah will continue in the Hereafter.

Her love and satisfaction will be your key to Jannah (Paradise)

Hook Up with Allah, Allah will Hook You Up

Hook Up with Allah, Allah will Hook You Up

Whoever does not have mercy

"The Messenger of Allah (Sallahu Alaihee Wasallam) kissed Hasan bin A'lee and Al-Aqra' bin Haabis sitting with him. So Al-Aqra' said: "Indeed I have 10 children and I have not kissed any of them." So the Messenger of Allah [pbuh] looked at him and said: "Whoever does not have mercy, would not be given any mercy." [Hadith, narrated by Al- Bukhaaree and Muslim.]

Never Bring up Mistakes of the Past

 

 

Never Bring up Mistakes of the Past

It can be very hurting for another person to be reminded of past mistakes. In Islam, it is generally not recommended to dwell on the past. One may remember errors that were made so that they are not repeated, but this should not be done excessively. Certainly, as humans, we are not in the position to judge another person. Advice may be given, but not in a harmful manner.

bad women for bad man

‎7 Keys to a great relationship in your marriage

‎7 Keys to a great relationship in your marriage: honesty, trust, freedom, respect, understanding, compromise, and communication. In every relationship, respect is earned, honesty is appreciated, trust is gained, and loyalty is returned

Zina

Zina is not only the Haram sexual relationship, it's actually more than that! Prophet Muhammad (salaAllahu alaihi wa sallam) said:"The fornication of the two eyes is an evil glance. The fornication of the two ears is the obscene talk. The fornication of the tongue and hand is the touch and grasp. And the fornication of the two feet is the steps taken towards evil. The heart desires and longs and the private parts abide with or does contrary to it”. (Mishkat ul Masabih, Abu Dawood)

so you must know that looking at opposite gender with lust, either in pictures, images, at colleges or at work, watching pornography or other indecent acts either openly or in the privacy of the home or on the internet is ALL forbidden..!

the type of wife you should be searching for:

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A righteous husband is the key to her Jannah

 

A righteous husband is the key to her Jannah ♥

A poor righteous man asked a father for the hand of his daughter in marriage, but he refused because the young man didn’t have enough money in his bank account, then that father accepted to give his daughter in marriage to a rich man who wasn’t a practicing Muslim. People asked the father:” how could you accept to marry your daughter to such person?” he just replied:“Allah The Guide, will show him the right path in InshaAllah”.

But didn’t he know that Al Hadi “The Guide” who will guide that rich man is Ar-Razzaq “The Provider” Who will provide that poor man? Allah says in Qur’an: “And marry those among you who are single and the pious of your slaves and maid-servants. If they be poor, Allah will enrich them out of His grace. Allah is of ample means, Aware.” [ Sûrah al-Nûr : 32]
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Unfortunately we are in a time where status and wealth are more important than Deen and good manners! We are in a time where some parents think that money is the secret of their daughter’s happiness. They forget that a righteous husband is the key to her Jannah and that is the ultimate happiness. They forget that marrying their daughter to a righteous man, they makes sure that the husband gives her happiness for the sake of Allah. If the man has a healthy relationship with Allah Azzawajal, he will be good to her for Allah’s sake, he will automatically obey her, respect her, love her and care about her for the sake of Allah (Subhanu Wa Tala).

 

If they have Valentine, I have someone much greater than him

If they have Valentine, I have someone much greater than him, Muhammad PBUH who taught me to dedicate all my life and days for love. He taught me that when I love someone, I should quickly come to him, not wait until February 14, or any other date, to tell him how I feel. He taught me that a gift (regardless of its value and color) is the messenger of love.

Therefore he said:"Exchange gifts and yo...u will love each other."

He taught me a way to be more beautiful than Adonis and superior to Venus.
Therefore, he said: "Allaah is beautiful and He loves beauty."
Muhammad PBUH taught me that Allaah The Almighty loves me because I live with love.
Therefore, He said:"My love is due for those who love each other for My sake, meet together for My sake and visit each other for My sake."
He promised me that I will be with him if I love him, for love of the Prophet PBUH is more than just words.
He said: "One will be resurrected with those whom he loves".

Muhammad PBUH directed me to the verse in which Allaah The Exalted Says (what means): {Close friends, that Day, will be enemies to each other, except for the righteous.} [Quran 43: 67]
He told me that the essence of my love in this world is love for Allaah The Almighty and love for His sake. In a Hadeeth (narration),
he said: "The one who loves for the sake of Allaah, hates for the sake of Allaah, gives for the sake of Allaah and withholds for the sake of Allaah has perfect faith."

Muhammad PBUH taught me to choose those whom I love in order not to regret my love, Allaah The Exalted Says (what means): {And the Day the wrongdoer will bite on his hands [in regret] he will say, "Oh, I wish I had taken with the Messenger a way. Oh, woe to me! I wish I had not taken that one as a friend. He led me away from the remembrance after it had come to me. And ever is Satan, to man, a deserter."} [Quran 25: 27-29]

As for those who love each other for the sake of Allaah The Almighty, He will shield them on the Day of Judgment under His shade when there will be no shade but His and include them in His love. On the Day of Judgment, Allaah The Almighty will call them, saying: "Where are those who love each other for My Majesty? Today, I will shield them under My shade, as today there is no shade but Mine." He will praise them, saying: "Those who love each other for My sake for them [are] pulpits of light, the prophets and the martyrs will look at them with admiration."

Cursed is this Valentine's Day whose cherishers from the non-Muslims abuse our Prophet PBUH with their cartoons and movies. How can I participate in Valentine's Day on the occasion of which the parliament of the Netherlands said to the whole world, "If Muslims want to live here, they have to rip up half the Quran and throw it away?"

May Allaah The Almighty expose the true face of those who call to such abominations! If some weak-minded Muslims have been deceived by your false, beguiling and distorted media, there are many others who have seen through the facade of illicit love that you promote.

Find your spouse having done something wrong

When you Find your spouse having done something wrong and you want to correct them then humble yourself first and advice with the best possible manners in privacy, not in public . Make very sure you don't hurt their feelings .

"Whoever protects the honour of his brother, will have Allah protect his countenance from the fire on the Day of Judgement" [Al Nawawi, Riyad al Salihin p 488, Hadith no 1530]

to be loved by the one you love

 

A very poor man lived with his wife. One day, his wife, who had very long hair asked him to buy her a comb for her hair to grow well and to be well-groomed. The man felt very sorry and said no. He explained that he did not even have enough money to fix the strap of his watch he had just broken. She did not insist on her request.

The man went to work and passed by a watch shop, sold his damaged watch at a low price and went to buy a comb for his wife. He came home in the evening with the comb in his hand ready to give to his wife. He was surprised when he saw his wife with a very short hair cut. She had sold her hair and was holding a new watch band.

Tears flowed simultaneously from their eyes, not for the futility of their actions, but for the reciprocity of their love.
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MORAL: To love is nothing, to be loved is something but to love and to be loved by the one you love,that is EVERYTHING. Never take love for granted.

 

Who is a MAN?

 

Who is a MAN?

A man is the most beautiful part of Allah's creation who starts compromising at a very tender age.
He sacrifices his chocolates for his sister.
He sacrifices his dreams for just smile on his parents face.
... He spends his entire pocket money on buying gifts for his wife whom he loves just to see her smiling.
He sacrifices his full youth for his wife & children by working late at night without any complain.
He builds their future by taking loans & repaying them for lifetime just for the sake of his family.
He struggles a lot & still has to bear scolding from his mother, wife & boss.
His mother, wife & boss all try to control him.
His life finally ends up only by compromising for others happiness.

Respect every male in your life. You will never know what he has sacrificed for you.

 

hand and the eye,

The relationship between a husband and a wife is like
the relationship between the hand and the eye,

If the hand gets hurt the eye cries, and If the eye cries the hand wipes its tears .. !!

The Manners of the Woman Leaving (exiting) the home (house)

The Manners of the Woman Leaving (exiting) the home (house)

1.The proper hijab.

2.Her refraining from applying perfume.
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3.The moderation of her pace such that the sounds of her shoes are not heard [Surah Nur 24:31]

4.If she is walking with a female companion in the presence of men, then she should not talk to ther companion it mean’s hearing of the woman’s voice could lead to temptation.

5.That she seeks the permission of her husband (before leaving) if she is married.

6.If the distance she intends to go is considered traveling, then she should not leave except with a lawful-relative (mahram)

7.That she does not mix with men.

8.That she observes modesty.

9.That she lowers her gaze.

10.That she does not remove her garments in other than her own home if she intended by this uncovering herself .

Marriage in the light of the Qur'aan

You must be a diamond

You must be a diamond for your husband and gold for other men, because gold is forbidden to men while diamond illuminates he who takes it...

pious Wife treats her Husband

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A pious Wife treats her Husband like a King, and loves him like a Prince... But she needs to keep on reminding him that he is a slave of ALLAH ! ♥

best among you

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The best among you is he who is best towards his wife - Hadith

truly value your relationship

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‎"You may have someone in your life who is very sensitive. If you truly value your relationship with them, learn to accept them rather than dismissing their feelings and trying to change them."

Allah created everything in pairs,

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Allah created everything in pairs, so don't worry, there must be someone out there for you all

Oh! Allah grant me a spouse who

Oh! Allah grant me a spouse who:

♥ will be the garment for my soul.

♥ who will satisfy half of my deen.
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♥ who will be righteous and on Allah's path.

♥ who will remind me to pray.

♥ who earns money and things from halaal sources.

♥ who always refer to Qur'an and Hadith.

♥ who uses Sunnah as his/her moral guide.

♥ who is always thankful and appreciate Allah for the man/woman at his/her side.

♥ who always be conscious of his/her anger.

♥ who often fasts and prays.

♥ who is sensitive and charitable.

♥ who will honour and protect me.

♥ who can guide me in this temporary life.

♥ who loves me when I am with him/her, but still has me in his/her heart and on his/her mind when I am not with him/her.

i make this dua on behalf of me and you all... may ALLAH Subhanahu Wa Ta'Ala accept it from me.. O our Sustainer!

رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَاجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّاتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ وَاجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَامًا

Rabbana hab lana min azwajina wathurriyyatinaqurrata aAAyunin wajAAalna lilmuttaqeena imama

Our Lord, grant us from among our wives and offspring comfort to our eyes and make us an example for the righteous.

Surah Al-Furqan [25:74]

pious, righteous, and beautiful spouses

 

May Allaah bless our brothers and sisters in Islaam with pious, righteous, and beautiful spouses. May Allaah ease the path to marriage for them. May Allaah cause there to be absolute love and kindness between the spouses and may Allaah protect all the people who seek marriage from fitnah. Allaahumma ameen

10 Ways To Love Your Wife

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♥♥ 10 Ways To Love Your Wife:♥♥

1. Make her feel secure; QUIT BEING AGGRESSIVE

2. When you go home say 'Assalamualikum.' (Greetings) It kicks the shaitaan out of your home!
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3. Prophet (Sallal lahu alaihy Wasallam) described the wife as a fragile vessel and said to take care of this vessel thats fragile. Remember that there is goodness in this vessel so treat it gently.

4. When you advise her, do so in privacy, in a peaceful environment. NOT IN PUBLIC as its a type of slandering.

5. Be generous to your wife- it keeps her LOVED

6. Move and let her have your seat. It will warm her heart.

7. AVIOD ANGER. HOW? Keep your wudu at all times. Prophet Sallal lahu alaihy Wasallam said if you are angry, sit down, if youre sitting, then lie down. Follow the sunnah!

8. Look good and smell great for your wife. IT keeps the LOVE!

9. Dont be rigid. It will break you. Prophet Mohammed (May the blessings and the peace of Allah be upon him) said 'I am the best amongst you and I am the best to my wife'. Being rigid and harsh will not bring you close to Allah and neither does it make you more of a man.

10. Listen to your wife-BE a GOOD LISTENER.

emotions you show to your wife

Remember that you will be rewarded by Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala for any emotions you show to your wife as the Prophet Salallaahu 'aliahi wa'sallaam said "one would be rewarded for anything that he does seeking the pleasure of Allah even the food that he puts in the mouth of his wife."

Never underestimate the importance of seemingly little things as putting food in your wife's mouth, opening the car's door for her, etc. Remember that the Prophet Salallaahu 'aliahi wa'sallaam used to extend his knee to his wife to assist her up to ride the camel.

love comes after nikaah

Love is about growing together as a couple, learning about each other, and NOT giving up. At the same time bear in mind that true love comes after nikaah

Do not marry only for a person’s looks

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“Do not marry only for a person’s looks, for their beauty might become a cause of moral decline. Do not marry for the sake of wealth, as this may become a source of sin. Marry rather on the grounds of religious devotion.” -Tirmithi

spouse having done something wrong

When you Find your spouse having done something wrong and you want to correct them then humble yourself first and advice with the best possible manners in privacy, not in public . Make very sure you don't hurt their feelings .
"Whoever protects the honour of his brother, will have Allah protect his countenance from the fire on the Day of Judgement" [Al Nawawi, Riyad al Salihin p 488, Hadith no 1530]

Getting married is one of the hardest decision

 

Getting married is one of the hardest decision to take in life. Staying married is the hardest work to do in life

To make your Husband feel loved

 

‎"To make your Husband feel loved give him the three Rs: Respect,
Reassurance, & Relief !"
“To make your Wife feel loved give her the three As: Attention, Affection, & Appreciation !”

Beauty isn't about having a pretty face

 

‎"Beauty isn't about having a pretty face. It's about having a pretty mind, a pretty heart, and a pretty soul

Always choose to heal, not to hurt,

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Always choose to heal, not to hurt,
to forgive not to despise,
to persevere not to quit,
to smile not to frown,
and to love not to hate!
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At the end of life, what really matters is
not what we bought, but what we built,
not what we got, but what we shared,
not our competence but our character,
and not our success but our significance.

Live a life that matters.
Live a life that cares...
and be Yourself

Mother, Not Matyr | Pure Matrimony

Mother, Not Matyr | Pure Matrimony

Love the Libas (Clothing) | Pure Matrimony

Love the Libas (Clothing) | Pure Matrimony

Top Two Reasons for Divorce | Pure Matrimony

Top Two Reasons for Divorce | Pure Matrimony

reasons many people can't get married

One of the reasons many people can't get married is unrealistic expectations, women are looking for a superman and men are looking for a supermodel! {Sheikh Abu Muawiyah Ismail Kamdar}

reasons many people can't get married

One of the reasons many people can't get married is unrealistic expectations, women are looking for a superman and men are looking for a supermodel! {Sheikh Abu Muawiyah Ismail Kamdar}

trust and it is honesty

The most important thing in a relationship is trust and it is honesty which leads to it. You should be able to tell your partner everything, even if he may be initially upset. But if you find yourself lying about even the smallest thing then trust is going to fly out of the window quickly.